Transforming Bad Habits
April 19, 2008
by Brian Tracy: Excerpt From: "Personal Success"
Your habits have been developed from early childhood as the result of things
that you have chosen to do, or not to do. Your entire life is the result of your
past choices and decisions. And like all of us, you probably have some bad
habits that have held you back from your true potential. But here's the good
news: Since you are always free to choose, you can make new choices and
decisions today that will determine what happens to you in the future.
One of your main objectives in life is to develop new habits and make them your
masters, while at the same time overriding and setting aside old habits that may
be interfering with your progress.
You have two major types of habits. You have habits that revolve around your
desires and you have habits that revolve around your fears. The habits that
revolve around your desires for health, happiness, financial independence, and
success are life-enhancing. They are the habits that have brought you the
success you enjoy today. The habits that revolve around your fears, on the other
hand, act as brakes on your potential. They hold you back. They interfere with
your success. They trip you up on a regular basis. They cause you to sell
yourself short and settle for far less than your potential.
Dr. Martin Seligman, in his book, Learned Optimism, wrote about the chief
psychological phenomenon of modern life. He called it “learned helplessness.”
Based on his 25 years of research, he discovered that virtually every person has
one or more areas where they feel helpless and unable to do something that they
really want to do.
Seligman's research demonstrated how animals can be trained to feel that they
are helpless. In one example, he put a dog into a cage with a glass wall in the
middle that separated the dog from a bowl of food. The dog was hungry and tried
to get at the food but kept banging his nose on the glass. After several hours,
Seligman removed the glass. And what happened then? The dog, who was still
hungry, sat only a few inches away from the food and never even attempted to eat
it. The dog had learned to feel helpless. The had become so convinced that he
was incapable of getting to the food that even when the obstacles were removed,
he just sat there with his stomach growling.
There are dozens of experiments like this. In every case, it is clear that
animals, and human beings for that matter, learn to feel helpless. They develop
habits of thought that hold them back from reaching their full potential.
If someone were to tell you that you could learn to type 30, 40, or 50 words per
minute by taking a typing course and practicing an hour each day for the next
few months, you would shrug your shoulders and say, "Of course!" Everybody knows
that you can acquire a particular physical skill by learning how it is done and
then repeating it over and over again until it becomes automatic.
But when it comes to mental habit patterns, most people are a little baffled.
They don't realize that you can learn mental habit patterns by following exactly
the same process that you would use to learn physical habit patterns. And mental
habit patterns will have a far greater impact on your life and happiness than
any physical habit pattern ever could.
Once you have recognized the old, negative habit patterns that do not serve your
purposes, you can determine what new habit patterns you would like to adopt.
Begin this process by looking around and determining the people that you admire
the most, both living and dead. Ask yourself: What qualities do they have? Which
of their characteristics do you most wish to have for yourself? Then make a plan
to incorporate those ideal habits into your own character and personality.
You know that you can shape a piece of clay into any desired form. You can also
shape your own character and personality by simply deciding to do so. I won't
say that it is easy. Changing your beliefs and attitudes about yourself is one
of the most difficult undertakings you will ever face. But it is definitely
possible and achievable if you dedicate the necessary time and effort.
How long does it take to develop a new habit pattern? It depends on how complex
the habit pattern is. You can develop a simple habit pattern in 14 to 21 days.
For example, if you want to begin getting up half an hour earlier so that you
can plan and organize your day, it might take just two to three weeks to develop
the habit. If you want to develop a new habit pattern of behavior that does
deeper into your character, it might take several months or even a year or more.
The most important point is that, no matter how long it takes, the end result is
achievable if you are really determined.
The habits of success have been studied by the great thinkers and philosophers
for at least 2,500 years. After personally studying the subject for more than 30
years, I have found that the very best people have the very best habits. Based
on these findings, I have identified seven habits that you need to develop if
you want to perform at your very maximum in everything you do.
The first is goal orientation. You need to become a habitual goal setter, and
dedicate yourself to working from clear, written goals every day of your life.
The second habit you need to develop for success is result orientation. Result
orientation is made up of two practices. The first is the practice of
continuously learning so that you become better at what you do. The second
practice is that of time management, which means setting very clear priorities
on what you do and then concentrating single-mindedly on the most valuable use
of your time.
The third major habit you need to develop is that of action orientation. This is
really the most important habit for material success. It is the ability to get
on with the job and get it done fast. Fast tempo in whatever you do is essential
to your success. You need to overcome procrastination, push aside your fears and
launch 100% toward the achievement of your most important goals.
The fourth habit you need is people orientation. This is your decision to
cultivate within yourself the habits of patience, kindness, compassion, and
understanding. Virtually all of your happiness in life will come from your
ability to get along well with other people. And getting along well with other
people is based on a set of habits that you have learned, or failed to learn,
from childhood. But it is never too late to become a wonderful human being in
your relationships with other. The more you practice being a truly excellent
person in your relationship with others, the more you will internalize those
qualities and actually become that person.
The fifth habit you need for great success is health orientation. This means
that you must make a conscious effort to eat the right foods in the right
proportions. You must exercise on a regular basis, continually using every
muscle and joint of your body to keep it young and fit. And finally, you must
have regular habits of rest and recreation that will enable you, in combination
with diet and exercise, to live a long, full life. Remember, your health is the
single most important thing you have, and it is completely dependent upon the
habits you develop with regard to the way you live.
The sixth habit is an orientation toward honesty and integrity. In the final
analysis, the character you develop as you go through life is more important
than virtually anything else. Honesty means that you practice the “reality
principle” in everything you do. You are completely objective with yourself and
with the world around you. You set very clear values for yourself and you
organize your life around your values. You develop a vision for yourself and
then you life your life consistent with your highest ideals. You never
compromise your integrity or peace of mind for anyone or anything.
This attitude of honesty will enable you to enjoy all of the other success
habits that you are developing.
The seventh habit—the one habit that guarantees all the others—is that of
self-discipline. Your ability to discipline yourself, to master yourself, to
control yourself, goes hand in hand with success in every area of life.
My favorite definition of self-discipline comes from Elbert Hubbard. He said,
"Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do, when you
should do it, whether you feel like it or not."
Every one of these habits—goal orientation, result orientation, action
orientation, people orientation, health orientation, honesty, and
self-discipline—can be developed. The following is a seven step method you can
use to internalize any habit or group of habits that you want to make a
permanent part of your character and personality.
1. Decide clearly on the new habit. Write it down as a goal in the form of a
present tense, personal, positive affirmation. For example, if you want to
develop the habit of self-discipline, you write, "I am an extremely
well-disciplined individual in everything I do."
2. Repeat your affirmation as often as possible, and with as much enthusiasm and
conviction as possible. The more times you repeat this command, the more likely
it is that your subconscious mind will ultimately accept it and begin to adjust
your thoughts, words, and behaviors to be consistent with it.
3. Visualize yourself as if you already had the new habit pattern. Imagine
yourself as already being exactly the person that you want to become in the
future. Remember, your subconscious mind is activated and programmed by mental
pictures. All improvement in your life and character begin with an improvement
in your mental pictures. Use visualization on a regular basis in conjunction
with your positive affirmations.
4. Emotionalize the affirmation and the visualization. Take a few minutes each
day to actually experience the feeling of being the excellent, outstanding human
being that you have decided to become.
5. Launch into your new habit with conviction. Assume the role, acting as if you
had been hired to perform this role in a movie or play. The more you behave
exactly as if you already had the habit, the more you actually become the person
that you desire to be.
6. Tell others that you have decided to develop this habit. When you tell
others, you motivate and encourage yourself. You also force yourself to
consistently act in accordance with your new resolutions because you know that
others are watching.
7. Continually review your progress on a day-to-day basis. When Benjamin
Franklin developed his own process for character formation, he would review his
behavior every single day to see if he was living consistent with the values
that he had determined were important. You can do the same thing. At the end of
every day, do a brief recap of your behavior during the day relative to the
values and habits you are trying to develop. Give yourself points when you are
strong, and be patient with yourself when you slip from time to time.
The most important keys to developing new habit patterns are patience,
determination, and persistence. When you begin to change yourself, you will find
that it is not particularly easy. But it is possible if you continue to work at
it.
You can take complete control over the shaping of your character and
personality, and everything that happens to you in the future, by making the
decision, right now, to define and develop the habits that will lead you to
great success. And when you develop the habits possessed by other successful
people, you will enjoy an equal, if not greater, level of success.
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