IF YOU'RE GOING TO SUCCEED - BE INSPIRED
Imagine you have discovered the career of your dreams.
But before you can apply for it, someone tells you: "You won't go after your dream career. It's too risky. You might fail. Besides, you can't afford to go after it. You don't have the right education. You're the wrong age. You're not talented enough. And secretly you know you don't deserve it."
Chances are no one you know is going to say such terrible things to you. Unfortunately, the comments above are exactly the types of negative things many job seekers tell themselves.
Here are some of the most common beliefs we've found that can keep people from going after the career of their dreams:
I'm Lacking Something
I'm Afraid I Will Fail
I Might Succeed
A belief alone usually isn't enough to stop us. You may believe it's dangerous to jump out of an airplane, and go skydiving anyway. But when we let our beliefs influence our behavior, it definitely can hold us back from what we want.
For example, if Jane believes there is a shortage of good jobs, that belief can affect the way she behaves when she goes on a job interview. She may be so afraid of saying the wrong thing that instead of being honest, she says what she thinks the employer wants to hear. She might shake hands less firmly, make less eye contact, keep her head down, and speak more softly.
Unfortunately, appearing too timid and agreeable is a turn-off to many employers. The result? It could cost her dream jobs that she might otherwise be perfect for.
In this case a job-hunter's belief (there's a shortage of good jobs) has a direct influence on her behavior (displaying less confident body language and saying what she thinks the employer wants to hear). Her behavior then has a direct influence on the result (not getting the job).
But it doesn't end there. When she doesn't get the job she wants, her belief is likely to be reinforced. ("I knew it. There's a shortage of good jobs. Why should they choose me when there are so many other people to choose from? I guess I'll have to figure out how to make them like me better next time.")
Once you know what beliefs are holding you back you should just change them, right? Actually, if you want to have different results in your career, the easiest place to break the cycle is with new behaviors. You can try changing your beliefs, but that can be a slow process because a lot of beliefs are solidly established. Some have been around since childhood and some you probably aren't consciously aware of.
But no matter what you believe, you can change your results by changing your behaviors.
You might be wondering how anything you do can lead to success because your belief is true. "After all," you may be thinking, "there really is a shortage of good jobs, a lot of competition, a minimum height required to play professional basketball, etc."
However, with very few exceptions, most of the "rules" you have heard about work are flexible. Consider just a few examples of people who broke the rules about careers:
Each of these people took action in spite of whatever fears or beliefs they might have had about how "impossible" it was for them to succeed.
So ask yourself if it's worth experiencing a little discomfort to have the career of your dreams. If the answer is "yes," try some of the techniques you'll find in the career articles and guides at FabJob.com -- even if they're not what you would "normally" do.
Changing your behaviors won't necessarily be easy. But if the things you have been doing aren't working, some new behaviors might help you achieve the career of your dreams.
by Tag and Catherine Goulet:
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